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MUTUAL RESPONSIBILITIE S &
DUTIES
BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE:
Unfortunately!
Misunderstandin
g, sentiment, ignorance and
materialism
become a great source of
troubles and
problems to many spouses in
their marital life. However,
marriage
has
been ordained and enjoined by
our Lord
as a mean of attaining PEACE and
TRANQUILITY as categorically
and
elaborately stated in the
GLORIOUS
QUR’AN (see: Qur’an chapter 30:21).
I believe based on an Indepth
study and
experience that, trauma and
pandemonium have
silently,but surely
dominated marital life as a
result
of not
discharging individual
responsibilitie s as HUSBAND and WIFE. Spouses
mostly
resort to tit-for-tat in dealing
with their
misunderstandin g and
subsequently this brings serious DISHARMONY
between
them.
A great scholar, Dr Nizâr
Shu’aib
opined that there are duties that the
husband
and wife owe to each other.
These
duties are mutual that
HUSBAND and
WIFE must observe them in
their
marital
life. These duties are six: these
are First Duty: To forgive each
other’s
small
mistakes. this should be by
controlling
your temper if your spouse is angry,
even if you think you are right
and your
spouse is wrong. You must
always avoid
believing in the criticisms of your
critics,
including your parents that are
not
educated religiously or are
inclined to materialism as the only quality
of
marriage. However, parents
should be
treated with kindness even if
they are wrong in their perception.
Second Duty: To provide
emotional
support in both happiness and
sadness.
Because both HAPPINESS and SADNESS
are inevitable in life.
Third Duty: To offer each other
wholesome advice concerning
obedience to Allah. Encourage
your spouse in observing prayers,
giving out
charity (Sadaqa), visiting
relatives
and
friends if you have the means, seeking
Allah’ forgiveness, eating
lawful
provisions and many others.
Fourth Duty: To keep each
other’s secrets. Our beloved Prophet
(SAW)
says: “The people of the worst
stature
with Allah on the Day of
Judgment are men who confide in their
wives,
and
wives who confide in their
husbands,
and then they spread each other’s
secrets around.” [Sahîh
Muslim]
Fifth Duty: To pass the night
with
one another. Women must tend to
their
husband’s needs even if they
don’t feel
that need themselves. The
Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “If a
man
invites his wife to his bed and
she
refuses, and as a consequence
he goes to sleep angry, then the angels
curse her
until she rises.” [Sahîh al-
Bukhârî]. This
could be applicable to
husband, because
you should always dress nicely
for his
wife and satisfy his wife
desire.
Marriage a lady (woman) is not the
same with purchasing a
servant
or a
car, it is undoubtedly a
selection of a
life partner, and as a result of
that, she
needs caring, respect, support
and
encouragement. In line with this,
the
Prophet (SAW) said to his
ascetic
Companion Abû al-Dardâ’: “O
Abâ al-
Dardâ, you have a duty to your
body,
and to your Lord, and to your
guest,
YOU HAVE A DUTY TO YOUR WIFE.
Fast
and break your fasts, pray,
AND
BE
INTIMATE WITH YOUR WIFE. Give
everyone their due
right.” [Sahîh
al-
Bukhârî]
Sixth Duty: To adorn themselves
in a
reasonable manner. This is
implied in
the verse: “Be intimate with
them in
kindness.” And “They have as
what is
asked of them in kindness.”
Both
spouses should dress for each other,
nicely, elegantly, gorgeously,
wonderfully
and sexually.
NOTE: My respected brothers
and sister, I believe by
implementing
these
mutual duties by both parties
our
marital problems and misunderstandin gs will not
only
be
eliminated but replaced with
HARMONY,
PEACE and TRANQUILITY. May Allah
bless our MARITAL LIFE and
transform it
to a WORLD-CLASS ONE which
cannot
be found anywhere. May He enrich us
with PIOUS and RESPONSIBLE
CHILDREN,…
BY
Isa Ali Pantami

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Sheikh Isa Ali Pantami MUTUAL RESPONSIBILITIE S & DUTIES BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE

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